[wp-forums] Forum moderation

[Petit]

Lara @ Anubis Marketing wrote:
> Not for nothing - but simply because I have been holding my tongue about
> that thread (the one where deko called me "ladydeBALOONa" among other
> references to my weight) myself and no longer wish to do so...
>
> (thanks whoo for bringing attention to it, it's gotten me to come back to
> state my opinion, which I should've done before...)
>
> I thought that flames would be deleted in the forums... or is that a
> misinterpretation of "B: The following posts will be deleted on sight." -
> more specifically, the rule/s that state: 
>
> "If your post contains abuse or flames then this will not merely be removed
> from a post, your whole post will be deleted." and
> "If your post directs offense at another forum user, it will be deleted."
>
> That particular thread was simply closed - and the insult to my being
> overweight is still there. (No, it's not like it's a secret that I'm a fat
> chick - it's the manner in which it was stated - and that was to flame and
> offend me.) Nevermind his other stereotypical insults about the French, mac
> users, and so on and so on... 
>
> In regards to whooami's thread, I draw attention to this section of the
> forum rules, under "B: The following posts will be deleted on sight.":
>
> "Posts which are destructive in nature. To put it basically, if you cannot
> say anything positive or helpful, or provide pointers that can assist the
> original poster and do so in a constructive manner - then do not post."
>
> Yet rather than delete Yosemite's non-helpful post, which didn't assist the
> original poster, nor did it provide pointers to assist the original poster,
> it was allowed to escalate a little, and then the thread was simply closed.
>
>
> Here it goes - you can't get pissed off at people who escalate things - it's
> a natural reaction to snap back when someone ticks you off, and that's human
> nature, and must be forgiven. However I think it's a lot easier (and will
> result in not only less hurt/angry feelings but rather more of a "learn your
> lesson" approach) to delete individual posts that break the rules.  Closing
> a thread immediately, yet leaving the insults up, doesn't make anyone happy.
>
> I know that I'm sure as hell not too keen on the fact that deko got the last
> insult out, and it stayed there, and I have no recourse for reaction (which
> I wouldn't have done at that point, I would've "reported" him) yet the
> insult remains. Once again, I'm feeling like I'm left to look stupid and
> he's trouncing around knowing he got the last dig at someone else... not
> fair, is it?
>
> Anyway - I feel better getting that all out, but I really wish something
> would be done about both cases... and that things like this (closing without
> deleting, as mentioned in the rules) would be prevented in the future. 
>
> Thanks for hearing me out as well...
> ~ La
< not snipped at all :)>
You're certainly well worth anyones ear Lady.
Wonderfully put - keep it up!
/Petit