[wp-forums] Speaking of being more friendly....

[Lara at Anubis Marketing]

>>http://wordpress.org/support/topic/68136?replies=10
>>Don't make me call you out.... you know who you are.

If you're talking to me, I don't see how this "conflict" was my fault. I
clearly read the OP's request, and responded accordingly.
I felt that the link to the codex was going to be misleading, and clarified
that in a very non-threatening way, and then I get "IF you..." this, and "IF
you..." that. Which clearly, I had, but the person who said that to me
clearly had not.
I replied in the same tone I was hit with. And I'm sorry, but one will
always be treated the way they treat me. I get talked down to like that, and
I refuse to sit back and and allow someone who is INCORRECT try to make me
look like a fool. I wouldn't have answered the OP in the first place if I
didn't know the right answer... Unlike the person who started this
"conflict" with me.

>>In addition to being nice & friendlier to the users of the forum.... we
also need to be nice to each other.

You're right. Which means that whether we FEEL that someone's incorrect, or
we KNOW that someone's incorrect - either way we need to do our best not to
try to make them look inferior. I began that way, until the attempt was made
to make ME look inferior... I'm sorry, but I'm not paid to be here, so I
don't HAVE to take crap from people. I LIKE being here. I enjoy helping
people. But I'm not going to allow anyone, mod or not, to try to make me
look stupid, especially when I'm correct. If I were wrong, I would've
happily conceded, knowing that I learned something from it. But I'm not
wrong in this case.

>>I'd really hate to see this (any) thread degrade in to a bicker war, such
that the OP decides to look else where for help.
>>It doesn't reflect nicely on us, the forums, or you as individuals.

You're absolutely right, again. And I also would hate to have the OP get
confused by the lack of correct information being posted by someone just for
the sake of arguing an invalid point that has no relevance to the original
question asked.

I'm not about starting "bicker wars" - however I'm a very strong minded
person who is oddly enough willing to back down when called on the spot as
being incorrect about something. IF I had been wrong, as I said, I would've
conceded and apologized for giving the OP incorrect information. But I
really don't post unless I'm fairly sure what I'm talking about. But I see
this all the time... People posting incorrect information, and getting
beaten down for doing so, which is why I didn't do that. I simply said "This
has nothing to do with permalinks... Etc." and was completely innocent and
non-offensive when I said it. 

Again, I treat people how they treat me. I'm not an angry person, and I
don't come here looking for fights. The best thing to me is when I've helped
someone and they post back a "Thank you" of sorts. It makes me feel good,
knowing that I've learned enough to actually help someone. I'm constantly
learning something about wordpress every single day, just by READING the
questions of others, and that's why I go to the forums. In any community,
you're going to have personality conflicts, and you're going to see things
that come across to you differently than they were intended. However in this
case, I don't feel I misinterpreted that reply... I feel he basically felt
stupid for giving incorrect information (okay, it was correct, but not
appropriate to the original question) and wanted to smack me down for my
gently declaring that his offer of help wouldn't solve this particular
problem. Sorry, but I wouldn't even take that from someone if I WERE being
paid... And I doubt anyone else would either.

- ladydelaluna (Lara)